I want you to shift your mindset and soften the stories you’re telling yourselves so they are compassionate and empowering, so they don’t devastate you or feel horribly humiliating.
Honest, you do not have to hide from your past or forget any of it either. I mean, how can we possibly expect intimacy if we can’t own, let alone share, our lives, our histories, our heartbreaks, our wisdom?
I don’t know about you, but whenever I fall in love with anyone, be it a lover, a barista, or my cat sitter, what I’m falling in love with is how they came to be, how this person arrived to this place in front of me right now.
You have to understand that what captivates us is beauty, and not beauty that began as beauty, but rather what pulls us in is a pain that’s been made beautiful. That’s what captivates us, fascinates us, that’s what we fall in love with: a person who can show us how to turn a life around, who has a hero’s journey to her name.
So that’s one way I help my clients. I help them get comfortable sharing their lives and telling their stories.
How We Will Heal Your Heart Through Coaching
- We focus on where you are now, where you imagined you’d be, and where you’ve always longed to get yourself to—be it a self-concept or life circumstance.
- We get clear on what you picture yourself having, how you want to feel, and at that point, who you think you’ll be and how you expect you’ll behave in life and love.
- We look at the gaps between your current story and your ideal story, your reality and your potential.
- We reframe every heartbreak in your life.
- We get crystal clear on your whys, like: Why him? Why her? Why now? Why not? What lesson did you gain? What parts of yourself did you give up?
I’m all about turning the sob story into a silver lining breakup story. Rather than being bitter, let’s figure out what it’s going to take for you to see and prove that you are better off.
I’m a believer that your heart breaks to move you toward greater love. That is always the plan. By embracing this perspective, we’re able to rethink our breakup narrative (the stories we tell ourselves about why such and such happened to us) so it is more meaningful, uplifting, empowering, and true.
To feel differently, you have to think differently. That’s the golden rule. My perspective is always that you’re not a victim of heartbreak. You’re on a path of your choosing. My coaching has everything to do with taking responsibility and cultivating a mindset that relieves you of self-doubt, shame, and self-sabotage so you can fear less and love greater.
Priority Booking Advice Session
- 40-minute priority booking session
- Within 24-hour turnaround call
One Month Intensive Package
- (4) 1-hour sessions that month
- 30-minute on-demand call
- Accessible for in-person sessions for those located in NYC
The Priority Package
- 6-hours worth of phone sessions divided up as you like
- Weekly “check-ins”
- Unlimited email and priority text support
Your one month intensive package includes:
4 1-HOUR SESSIONS WITH CHELSEA
We’ll rebuild your sense of self so you are stronger and more self-aware in a relationship and outside of a relationship too. Our talks with include but not be limited to relieving you from doubt, resentment, and pain. You will learn to redirect obsessive thinking and reframe the story you tell yourself about your breakup. Together we will create self-care, self-enhancement, and even dating goals.
At any point during our month together, you have the freedom and flexibility to reach out to me for some pick me up coaching on the spot. Clients love to use this as an emergency call as it does not have to be scheduled days in advance. I’m here for you, that’s the point of all this, so this is your perfect opportunity to use me as you need me.
The priority package includes:
6-hours worth of phone sessions
Divided up as you need, these sessions will work to alleviate your heartache, give you the perspective you need to accept, acknowledge, appreciate, and take accountability for your breakup. We’ll rebuild your sense of self so you are stronger and more self-aware in the wake of your breakup. Our talks will include but not be limited to relieving you from doubt, resentment, and pain. You will learn to redirect obsessive thinking and reframe the story you tell yourself about your breakup. Together we will create self-care, self-enhancement, and even dating goals. All in all, every call offers you endless support, professional perspective, and a heart-to-heart connection so you don’t just move on but rather breakupward.
Whether these are emergency or planned calls, you can use these to smooth over any details, ask for a quick fix of advice, or even just receive reassurance that what you are feeling is normal.
Unlimited email and text support
Because sometimes the most helpful support is the kind that can be returned to again and again. As an author and HuffPost advice columnist with a Masters in writing, words are my first love and you can feel that love in every piece of writing I send and share with my clients. This is a favorite feature of mine and I’m so happy I can offer it to my clients. Though you may be reaching out to me in pain and confusion, you can anticipate a loving, candid, brave email in response from me—an email that will lift your spirits, soothe your heart, and let your mind rest. As my client, I’m rooting for you, and in every email you will feel that. And thanks to the beauty and power of e-coaching, you will be able to return to this tangible form of coaching whenever you’re in need of compassion, understanding, and perspective.
Ready to no longer do this on your own? Here’s how it works:
- Add the session and/or package you’d like to your cart, pay with a credit card or your PayPal account. Check your inbox and within 48 hours, you’ll receive an email from me coordinating our session.
- If you do not know which works best for you, use the contact form below to explain as best you can what you are looking for. I’ll take it from there.
- You’ll hear from me within 48 hours of receiving your request. If I think we’re a good fit, you’ll receive information for us to get started.
- If I don’t think we’re an ideal match, I’ll try to lead you to the person or program that is.
- You’ll receive a link to my calendar and book your first appointment.
- We’ll connect and get you feeling relieved, understood, and better.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: Who do you work with?
A: I find that my message and style of coaching resonates with the mid-twenties to mid-thirties age group, who have either had their fun or generated success in other realms of their life but feel defeated by their capacity to connect or unprepared for life’s most meaningful endeavor which in today’s world is the pursuit of, not only love but, sustainable love.
Q: I’m a man, will you still work with me?
A: Well, duh! I’m a self-proclaimed man fan which means, of course, you can be my client. I want you to be! Truth be told, when I first began my coaching career, I set out to work with men exclusively. So, I’ve got some good experience.
Q. Is their any difference between the coaching men seek?
A: Baring in mind that these are generalities, I can tell you that, the men who often come to me are all about the “HOW TO” of a breakup. They want to be coached on how to do it, where to go, what to say, how to not hurt her.
I think this would surprise many women. Men are sensitive to the fact that they don’t feel like women can handle the truth even if they are asking for it. So, men come to me for direction as well as permission really to be sensitive. They want to know that they can open up and be direct with the reason for their change of heart. After our coaching, men often experience a renewed sense of vulnerability and feel like they can show this side of themselves to women more freely.
Q. Why do women typically want to be coached?
A. Women are often more invested in the storyline. They come to coaching to figure out the “WHY” of their breakup. When a relationship ends, they take it more personally, as if it were a personal failing, as if there were a way to have avoided the inevitable split.
So while the women I meet are more focused on the storyline of having something given to them and then taken back, coaching happens to be a really convenient way to get women to finally resolve the emotions and heartache they have surrounding themselves and their own self-love.
Q. What do you find your clients are most pained by?
A: The pain I see my clients experiencing most is the pain of being broken down overtime by one’s own fear and belittling self-critique, the voice that says “I am not enough yet,” and then add to that pain the panic that they will never find “the one,” let alone be “the one” in the eyes of a man or woman who matters to them.